Necessary qualities of a drummer
The first and most important thing is the ability to play exactly according to the tempo. You can develop this ability by playing along with the metronome every time you practice on the pad. Without a clear time base, you will never build clear breaks.
Musicality is something that comes to some by itself, while others learn it for a very long time. Here's the key to musicality: listen to as much music as you can, and when playing with other musicians, listen to each of them and try to enrich the overall sound of the orchestra, but never overwhelm it.
Learn to play most musical styles, and play each with your own unique feel, including solos and fills. This ability is developed by listening to the best bands representing various musical genres.
Notes are good, but pauses are even better. Develop the ability to play fills in the right places, but also learn to step into the background when necessary and let the other members of the group show themselves.
Many drummers have a tendency to pump at high volumes but die in quiet places. Constantly work on yourself to "pump" at all dynamic levels, from ultra-quiet to mega-loud.
Develop the fastest parrying game with the best coordination you can. What for? Then, that you should be able to play whatever comes to your mind. If you have a great idea in the middle of a song and don't execute it properly, that great idea will ruin the whole drive. The best drummers can play anything they can think of on the spot, effortlessly. This is what we should strive for.
While this is not directly related to your performance on the stage, it is directly related to the number of opportunities to appear on it! No front man likes to entertain the audience for hours until the drummer deigns to complete his preparations. Try to arrive at the concert with plenty of time to set up your drums, plus at least 20 minutes to relax before the show.
The eighth and final basic element of a drummer's skill. Optimists exude a kind of contagious energy that makes everyone around them feel wonderful and play great. This ability is very noticeable in Louis Bellson.
Pessimists, on the other hand, suck you dry. But life is too short to waste time on this. Don't hang around with these "negative" types, and if you yourself have such a tendency, try to change. It might not be easy, but you have to do something about it if you want it to stick together.
Try to work on one of the main elements every week, and then, perhaps, somehow "suddenly and suddenly" you will notice yourself among the world's drum masters. Good luck!